Why do I concern myself so much with what other people think about me? Concerning men, I want to love a man for who he is, not who he tries to be so that I will like him. Similarly, I want a man to love me for who I am. I do not want to have to try to be perfect to win and keep his affections. I think my major issue is that I put far too much value on how my peers view me, and totally neglect how my God sees me. I am constantly striving for physical perfection, while knowing it is unattainable, thus making myself miserable in this attempt to store up my treasures here on earth verses where they will last forever. I am constantly being barrauded by feelings of guilt when I eat. I am tired of listening to the accuser. I choose to listen to my Savior, the one who loves me so much that He gave His life and freed me forever from all condemnation. God, if I eat this bowl of chili, and I have it with cheese and crackers, will you still love me? YES! Will my worth go down in your eyes? NO WAY! I LOVE YOU LORD!

insight to my needs

There is a difference between knowing you are loved and feeling cherished. I want both.

On Marriage and Family Life

1. What to me defines success as a wife? As a mother? As a provider?
2. What are my unspoken rules and expectations?
3. What are things I want to have in common with my husband? (i.e. What activities do I want to be able to share with him?)
4. What roles do I expect to play in my marriage? What roles do I expect to definitely not have to play?
5. What do I expect to gain from marriage?
6. What might I have to sacrifice in order to gain what I want to gain from marriage, and am I willing to make those sacrifices?
   
7. How important is “meaningful touch” to me? Am I a high contact person or a low contact person?